Loving Things For What They Are, Not What They give you

We all love and want to be loved, love is beautiful, love is poetic, love is a need, love is a lifestyle, we give and receive love everyday sometimes noticing it and sometimes not. Love is a word that cannot be simply described, its a feeling, its a connection, but have you ever asked yourself "why do i feel this emotion or connection toward this person or object?" 

Well of course you have and the answer almost always comes back to you. People love other people and things because of the way they make them feel. You could love a partner, a family member, a friend, a hobby, or a pet simply because they provide you with care, joy, pride, hope, trust, warmth, peace, compassion, kindness, respect. These are all feelings and emotions that give us dopamine, and I'm no different of course I'm a human after all, and its not selfish or self centered its instinct, its human nature.

 But a little extra thing i like to do and think that everyone should interpret in their connections with beings is detachment. I like to detach myself and observe this human or object, removing myself from their orbit. Instead of focusing on what they give me i focus on who they are independently of me. 

Now if you do the same will you still hold the same value for this individual or entity? Will they still sparkle in your eyes the same way they do now? That's why exploring the difference between emotional attachment and genuine appreciation is important. It makes us see the real value and beauty of our surroundings without it centering around us, we simply get to enjoy it for what it is.

 So even if you're no longer involved in this certain connection, not getting anything from it, you still feel a kind of love or appreciation for them. Not because they benefit you, but because you genuinely value their existence, their character, and their essence. This doesn't only help you navigate the type of connections you're having with these people whether you value them or not after this separation but this is also an art. The art of observing your own emotions from a distance. How stepping back is able to make feelings clearer instead of colder. And in that clarity you discover a deeper truer kind of love.